Sex addiction is often considered not a problem for many people. In fact, for the sufferer and his life partner, the disorder can be very destructive. Not only damage the sufferer’s personal life, but also the social environment, family, and especially the patients spouse (read the book: The Addictions and the result).
According to experts, sexual addiction is an appropriate measure of sexual activity considered beyond the control of allurement. Sex addiction sufferers feel compelled to acquire and immerse themselves in sexual activities, although aware of all potential risks facing.
Sex can be addictive as alcohol and drugs. When Doing Activities of sex, body to release chemicals that make our bodies to be comfortable. Some people become addicted to remove these chemical compounds and becomes obsessed to get again and again and again, feeling comfortable caused.
As for the other addictions, the body getting used to the release of these chemical compounds. Addict’s body needs more numbers, more and more, and more and more, which means that sex continues to feel the need, it is never satisfied.
Among the fulfillment of sexual needs and high chemical, emerged triumphant. It is often identified with the feelings of shame, regret, pain and anxiety. Addiction sufferers can feel isolated, isolated, and powerless to change their behavior. Along with continued turning circle is not endless, the people with sex addiction continues to get sex in order to escape the feeling that handcuff.
More than 6 percent by conservative estimates, 3 to 6 percent of the population of people suffering from addiction to sex and 20 percent of whom are women. They come from various walks of life. However, numbers three and six percent were estimated to be too low from the actual number of sufferers.
Given the prevalent sex addiction is accompanied by feelings of shame and disgraceful, according to the site owned by Dr. Patrick Carnes, an expert consultant and a leading sex addiction, www.sexhelp.com, so sufferers often find it difficult to get help. For this reason also, the type of patient profile sex addiction is difficult to find.
Since the opening of the Internet with a variety of cheap sexual services without having to open a self-interested persons identity, experts can only know that people with sex addiction that rose sharply, without knowing their exact identity. With limited assistance services for patients, experts believe the number of people with sex addiction that will continue to rise.
Then, as if the signs of those who suffer from sex addiction? Dr Patrick Carnes suggests the existence of 10 possible signs that need to be aware of:
1. Feel that your behavior is not restrained.
2. Aware that could arise due to severe if you continue with that behavior.
3. Feeling unable to stop the behavior you even aware of the consequences.
4. Fixed hunt destructive activities and / or high-risk.
5. Continue to expect to stop or control what you do and act actively to limit the dangerous activity you do.
6. Using sexual fantasies as a way to cope with difficult feelings or situations.
7. Need sex continually in order to always feel good.
8. Suffered from the feelings that keep swirling around sexual activity.
9. Spending a lot of time to plan, do, or regret and do more sexual activity.
10. Ignoring the social activities, the activities office, and recreational activities are important for sex.
When you see the need to admit there is one of the signs, the sign on of contained in your behavior, the most important steps that can be done is recognize that sex addiction is a real and no problems go away or goes away by itself. You must choose one’s attitude personally responsible for the recovery of the interference, which could be you’re experiencing.
Generally, people with sexual disorders had found it difficult to change their own behavior. However, at least little by little you should be able to minimize the behavior as depicted on the signs at the top although sometimes the urge to repeat the cycle coming acts too strong to be resisted.
A professional therapist can help you to understand what really happened and take steps to push you to lifestyle changes toward a healthier sexual.
Conversely, if you suspect that your spouse is a patient addicted to sex, you should have helped to change the behavior. Mental attitude you need to prepare yourself is, no one would ever recover from addiction except to accept that they suffered a fault and want to change. Because of that, help strengthen your resolve couples who are addicted to getting stronger willingness to make changes.
It’s messy, painful, and confusing a couple who are addicted to sex. If in Western society, even the available help for those who have a spouse sex addict. Help can be personal as well as in the companion group. Although not yet available in Indonesia such service, you can search for insights, for example to a Sex Addicts Anonymous, an international site provides information on assistance from the UK in www.saa-recovery.org or at the British Association of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, which offers a directory Private sex therapist at: www.basrt.org.uk. Forms of addiction and consequences of sex addiction may exhibit various forms, but generally recognizable from the behavior that feels out of control. These behaviors include:
– Spend plenty of time to enjoy pornographic products
– Uncontrolled Masturbation
– High-risk Sex
– Phone sex and sex via the Internet
– Having sex with a new partner who is known
By Dr Carne, the survey revealed a result of the behavior of sex addiction, among others:
70 percent experienced severe disruption with 40 percent losing his life partner spouse 27 percent of lost opportunities in a career 40 percent experienced an unwanted pregnancy 72 percent obsessed suicidal 17 percent attempted suicide 68 percent exposed to sexually transmitted diseases.